Personality

Is one's personality shaped by one's innate nature or by the environment? Someone who grew up around liars becomes a liar himself, then is it the people around him at fault for what he has become or is it his own fault? But what does it matter to the people around him whether it's their fault or not, when the problem has got nothing to do with them?

Let's use another example for environment factor - Someone who becomes a loner because his friends do not honour their promises or are always late for meetings. Is it the fault of this person that he feels rejected, hence not willing to hang out with his so-called friends anymore? But even if it's his friends' fault, will it matter to them? Or will they even realise they are the cause of this someone's problem? Or is it this someone's fault, for hanging out with friends like them in the first place? It's not like he can predict things will turn out this way. Then what can this person do, continue trying and face the prospect of being rejected once more? How strong can a person be?

Let's say this person follow the advice I gave in the earlier post? Will he have to face numerous rejections continually and feel like a fool each and every time? The fool forgives and forgets, but the smart forgives but never forgets.